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Originally Posted by TaraL
" I think you may be taking this a bit too far. It is obvious you have created a purely black & white issue, and go out of you way to belittle and mock the parents in question."
This child was not disabled. She had actually very common symtoms of many children adopted from China.
"It is not as if they left empty-handed...they are taking home a child from an orphanage which they will raise and provide for, for the rest of their lives...and have already spent thousands of $$$ and time to do so...in my book, they are doing good. "
Oh boy, I don't even know how to comment on this. We are not saving children when we adopt. That is not the attitude any adoptive parent should have. Saying that they didn't leave empty handed sounds like they left with the consolation prize. These are children we are taking about. They are human beings.
"I can't believe the things I'm reading here...."what if it was their bio child?" - well she isn't...."
The last thing I ever want my daughter to feel is that she is different than a child I would have had biologically.
""this will cause trauma on the older child who witnessed this" - no it wont, I'm sure they will tell her Hannah 1 was just too sick to come with us...."
There is a good chance that the older daugher will wonder if she gets very ill will she be sent back.
"They did not abandon her...she is not her bio or adopted child...they are not to welfare sys of China. Lets get real here."
This statement makes me very sad.
"Somehow you make it seem selfish and evil for parents to want a healthy child. Isn't that why China is as popular of a place to adopt from in the 1st place? "
Of course we all want healthy children. What parent wouldn't. Rarely do children come home from China completely healthy. Most children are delayed and many have minor problems that are resolved once they are home with a loving family. From what the blog stated this seems to be the case for Hannah. It is naive to believe differently and this is why soon to be parents need to better educate themselves.
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Tara, I understand from your other posts that you are in a situation that makes you more sensitive to this case, and can appreciate that. What I can not tolerate is your mischaracterization of my post...and anyone reading what I have said and how you grotesquely distort it should know that. I simply add information to give nuance to the decisions made. People adopt for many reasons and have many options...if someone chooses to adopt from a poor orphanage it is PART OF THEIR DECISON...so please keep your holier-than-though statements under control...your comments of "consolation prizes" is plain ridiculous. Also, who said you should treat your adopted child differently than your bio child?! ...lets not get into stating the obvious. You conjecture on the older daughter fearing she might get sent back is only something you could come up with...not a child who possibly spend a few days with another child.
Tara, people come to this forum to educate themselves and prepare themselves to make wise decisions. While my posts may not be popular, they do serve this purpose by balancing some very irrational & hysterical statements. You have clearly confused the roll of orphan advocate with adoption supporter. It is unwise and dangerous to make dramatic statements that people should continue processes that clearly are not wise for them. You have fixated on this one particular child and demonized the couple that did not adopt her. Rather than grand statements and unachievable gestures, you should put your efforts directly into the helping all orphans.