Yeah, I have lots of thoughts on this subject
[quote=Lorraine123]I. . . We didn't want to start over with an infant, so we chose older child adoption. [quote]
It seems that hubby and I are unusual to have adopted a large sibling group with a bio child who wasn’t much older. In Polish family court I was asked the "hardball" questions. (And no, the lawyer really didn’t prep us beyond, “talk slow so the translator can catch up.”)
Q: "Why didn't you go through fertility treatments?”
A: “I’m too Catholic for that.”
Q: “Why didn’t you adopt a baby?”
A: “I have an almost 10 year old child. I wanted one family not two.”
Q: “Why didn’t you adopt an older child in America?”
A: “I wanted to make sure that these were my children forever.”
Q: “Won’t you love your bio child more than your adopted children?”
A: “It is the daily care of the child and the trust that builds with that care, that builds the love not shared DNA.”
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