[LisArno]

I had a friend recently tell me "People only adopt when they can't have children...The point is to have your own". I explained that many parents choose adoption over childbirth, and then she made another somewhat negative remark today. My husband and I selected adoption over any type of fertility treatment, but this wouldn't count for her.

I know there are many people on this forum who have both adopted and biological children and informed her of such. My family is the same - my sister/I are bio and my brother is adopted. And I have two co-workers seriously considering adoption instead of any bio children.

Anybody have any statistics? I googled a few thoughts but didn't come up with anything.

(For those who have read other posts of mine, this is the same friend who told me we're "lucky" that our kids [referred/accepted] are cute. She truly is a friend - she just needs to be educated!]