[manni28]

Less devestating?? go look at some of the boards and see the joy/happiness and excitement by the new forever families.... kinda hard to explain- its a double edged sword imho- they should be happy- but- is it just me - or aren't they kinda dancing on bparent graves- saying its a good thing she isnt there for you? How does that make it less devestating to a child?

I'm an adoptee that posted on the other thread and to be honest, if my bmom was is this situation; I would WANT to be adopted. Can you imagine growing-up in a family where your mom's hubby resents your presence because you aren't his child because you were conceived while they were married? WHO would want that? Always reminded, and picked-on, because you aren't "his" or if there’s a problem in the marriage it's because of "you"-no, sometimes it's best for a child not to grow-up in the biofamily. JMHO



I am very happy to be adopted-I've met my bparents but they aren't my parents that’s for my amom and adad