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Originally Posted by gottahavehope
I just want to say thank you to all of you. It means so much to hear from people who have been there. And, I find that the people on these boards are just so loving. I actually ended up being the first to break our once a week deal. I called her that night because I was still so upset that she might be upset. She told me that she really did think that once a week was a good idea for now. She told me that I had to honor her and not call any other time and she had to do the same. She said she didn't think that all the emotions she was feeling were good to pass on to me because I had to take care of the baby. I asked her if she wanted me to send her pictures or tapes or anything. I promised I would overnight them right away. She said for now no. We left it that she will still be coming down for the blessing, which I am so excited about. So, for now we are going to talk once a week. I am going to just allow her to set the pace and the conversation and try so hard to be there when I can. I know we can do this. We developed such a wonderful relationship over the seven months we were matched, I just have to remember that it takes time and be sensitive to her pain without being the one to try and take it away.
Thanks again to all of you.
Much, much love,
K
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Golly, guess I should have read the whole thread!!!! So glad to hear this update... that is wonderful that you both were able to communicate your feelings and to make clear your expectations and find a compromise that works. Sometimes the structure is the best thing... best of luck to you!!!