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We too would adopt Hannah in a heartbeat but know that is not possible anytime soon...if ever, based on the dynamics of Chinese adoption in situations such as these. It is not a simple process and it will take time, lots of time...and during that time, if this baby girl does not get the proper nutrition and stimualtion...she becomes less and less 'adoptable.' To the point of possibly not ever becoming available for adoption again. It is not a nice neat process where next month this baby girl gets to be referred to another family or gets the SN designation. And every day that slips by, this baby suffers more than any one of us can imagine.

I have been there...presented with child who was sick...who was the size of a US newborn at 7.5 months old...who was wearing 3/6 month clothes at 11 months old...who's little belly was so distended from malnutrition...who was so weak she would try to do simple things like laugh and coo and become completely and utterly exhausted. A baby who would gorge herself when she finaly got food...drink 8 to 10 8 ounce bottles per day...plus baby food...in those first months home...because she has known what it is like to be starving. Who simply wanted to be fed. Who had to learn what wearing a diaper felt like. Who was dying from a severe infection...who was much sicker than this little girl. Who just a few months after coming home was so happy and healthy...still tiny but fine.

Never, ever once did we think of leaving her behind in hopes that someone else would take care of her...what human would do that to another human? To just go and get the better, prettier, healthier, more haired model...and leave China as a 'happy family.' To refer to this child and her condition as a 'systems problem...not a problem of the family.' To say that it 'is not our fault that she was neglected and malnourished...not our fault she was developmentally delayed and failure to thrive...not our fault blah, blah, blah...not our fault...not our fault....' HUH? I am certain that it must have been that innocents childs fault and I'm sure she wishes she could apologize for wasting 4 of their precious days in China...

Heck most of us would be in an uproar if we saw a dog tied out with a 3 foot rope, with no toys, no shelter, not enough food or water...even if we ourselves couldn't take that dog in...wouldn't we do everything in our power to get him help? Or would we simply send him back to his owner and say....fatten him up, get him some toys and then maybe someone else can adopt him? That is what these people did. So, they can't handle of sick baby (she is in no way special needs in my opinion) but they discarded her like yesterday's newspaper. Anyway....

CoatAnnHat~
Can you please PM me with the contact info of the agency. DH and I are very interested in paying for foster care for this little girl...regardless of whether or not she becomes available for adoption...we just can't stop thinking of her and comparing her situation to our DD's. Thanks!!!!