[Mom2_4]

I'm finding this thread so durn interesting. From what little I know about this subject, you ALL are right.

I think that Jasiu is right that various agencies in country representative do have relationships with orphanage directors to keep tabs on who is coming available and then advocate for their clients. Having adopted with the "older/less healthy" agency, I've seen that some of the parents’ fees go back into infrastructure of the orphanages that children are adopted from. Also, the "older/less healthy" agency charges the same amount no matter the number of children. Hybell and I paid the same agency/facilitator related fees even though she adopted 1 child and I adopted 3.

And since Jasiu wife who reads the internal Polish adoption boards has mentioned that resident Poles (Category A) are facing wait times as well~~ I do find it odd when extremely young healthy babies and toddlers are adopted by Category B or Category C folks, since there are Category A folks waiting.

And LisArno is also correct about the international connection. My facilitator was urging us to say a quicker yes to our trio than we were comfortable with because their was a Italian facilitator also advocating to the children's legal guardian for our trio. Looks wise, one of my kids would have made a fine Italian and the other two would have look liked the shortest Swedes ever. But heck, they are now American's who eat lots of pierogi and kielbasa.

And Anita is also correct. Lots of Poland to US adoptions are multiples. My kids alone were 3 out of the 104 adopted in 2004. And we had signed up for two but with gentle arm-twisting by "M", we changed our request to three. Now, I have to say, we asked for a brother and sister younger than our 1 bio boy and said that we were open to a brother and 2 sisters, younger than our bio son. As most you know. I've not got three boys and 1 girl now, so you don't exactly get what you ask for.

I swear we got our three because two of them were grossly underweight and undersized at referral and I'm heavy and had almost 10 year old boy who was very healthy and attractive looking.

This is what I picture them saying at the monthly referral meeting:


"Hum, we have three children here. They are so skinny. In our list of potential parents, are there any fat mothers?

"Hey, this wife of this couple is overweight but active. Oh, look she has Polish heritage and they both are Catholic. Dobsha, dobsha."

"What about the Hubby?"

"Oh, he has almost got his black belt in Karate."

"Dobsha, dobsha. She can fatten them up and he can keep them in line."

“Do you think that they can handle three children?”

"They already have a child."

"Then they have experience. What does he look like?

"Nice and healthy and eager for a brother."

"Let's give him two brothers."

"Dobsha, dobsha! Works for me, lets go to lunch now."

But in reality, I have no idea why. When I asked our in-cournty lawyer, he kept say that "It was all up to God." Funny thing, is that I don't remember making any checks out to God!.