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When you go into an adoption from a country such as China...YOU should be prepared to parent a child such as was described above. That is a normal child...the normal condition of a child who has not had the greatest start to life.
Anyone who goes into adopting a child, a PI child (they knew the first Hannah was in an orphanage not being...a Foster Care Baby like Hannah #2) should have prepared themselves for dealing with the typical PI issues...small, malnourished, sick, delayed, attachment issues. No one should go in expecting the best case scenario...that is unfair to them, but more importantly the innocent child. Hello people, this was a living breathing child, that they had for 4 days and simply handed back...she is a human being. You are misguided to think this will not have a negitive impact on her...I could care less about the 'parents' here...they were wrong not to have prepared themselves for this possibility...a very real possibility when adopting a PI child.
Everyone who goes into this experience should ask the hard questions upfront...can we handle the worst case scenario? Most times, you will not know who your child is, how they react, what is 'wrong' with them until well after the 'Hannah #1 4 day trial period' these folks used. Most 'issues' don't present themselves until months or years later.
Sorry if you think I am being hard on these tell it like it is writers...but I am telling it like it is...disgusting. If they weren't prepared to parent a child like Hannah #1...they shouldn't have been in a Chinese adoption. This child looked fine...they were told she had the potential to be normal but God forbid she wasn't perfect...she was looking right at the camera while her picture was being taken and POSTED on the web during the 4 day trial period and you could see she had 'something' in her eyes.
I have been in their shoes...have been blessed by 2 imperfect, sick children...one of which is still struggling 2 plus years after bringing him home...my kids would have never made it through their test run period.
IMHO it is beyond disgusting!
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~
*Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~now 7, in 2nd grade and such a lovely little lady! 
*Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 5, in Kindy and such a 5 year old boy! 
'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.'
~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts
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