[lynda1]

Hi I'm new to this forum. My DH and I adopted our DS from Russia almost 2 years ago. We are now in the process of adopting a DD from China. Our first referrel from Russia did not go well either. From the moment I saw the referrel I know something was wrong, call it gut or mother's instinct but off we went. When we got the the orphanage, we were greatly upset to find the baby we had hoped for was partially blind and deaf. The orphanage failed to give our agency any of this info. No one can imagine the pain, and disapointment we were going through. To be half way around the world, have no family or friends to talk this over with was very difficult for DH and I. The decision we made was one of the hardest decisions we ever had to make. We felt like we were abandoning him just like his birthmother had. We were referred a second child who was a premie at birth and did not walk until he was 20mo old. He is now 21/2 and although he is small for his age, (25 pounds) he is walking and talking. A decision like theirs had to be a hard one, no one knows for sure what can happend unless you have gone through it. I'm sure they made the right decision for them.