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Question for you:

What instructions/requests, if any, did you provide to your friends/family with children concerning how they should address your child's adoptive status with their kids? What I mean is this: we have a number of friends with children who are familiar with us and our current family make-up, so when and if we ever complete our adoption the sudden appearance of this child is bound to peak the curiousity of our friends' children. Who is this person? Where did they come from? Where were they before? So forth, so on.

Part of me says just leave it alone since telling other people what to do with their own chidren is a general no-no. But on the other hand, I really don't want my new LO bombarded with questions or constantly reminded of his adoptive status because a parent didn't have a discussion about adoption and how it's a private matter with their child beforehand. Maybe I'm just being too paranoid . . . but I'm thinking maybe I should ask my friends to talk with their kids ahead of time?

What do you think? If I give kindly-worded instructions what should they be ??