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My father used to also tell me about a form of fostering that was once very common in Europe among wealthy families (and notably royalty) as a way of promoting alleigences. One one of your children reached a certain age,(somewhere between 8-14) they would be sent to spend the rest of thier childhood with another family so they would bond to that family as well. The foster child would be treated like the foster families own child. The US has a much younger culture and of course as any school child can tell you it's based on Indipendance. LOL.
As for us, we are using the Catholic adoption center. Our child has what is considered a severe disability and so a charity was advocating to find him a home. So we heard about him and are doing things kind of backwards. Adopting having already found our child, which is NOT how you do things in Poland. It's only the fact that the child is older and faces this disability and the fact that our facilitator (most of her experence is helping people in Swedan adopt, but now she is working for an American agency, but she already has contacts and relationships in Poland). I think there are a lot of factors that go into it when they are trying to match children.
Lorraine
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