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Originally Posted By amylauren

I am glad to hear more birthmothers having positive comments regarding open adoption. I am a prospective adoptive parent, and have dealt with agencies. They are very expensive, and I feel they promise birthmothers and adoptive parents things that they don't follow through on. I wish more birthmothers would consider open adoptions. There is less hassle for all concerned and the cost is low. I also feel that if the birthmother is interested, she should be allowed pictures, progress reports, and even visits, if she wants. Giving up a child has to be one of the most heartbreaking decisions in the world, even if you feel it is best. I have a friend who is searching for the child she gave up 15 years ago...this would have been so much easier had she been allowed to know about her child's life over this time period. After all, as my step-daughter says, "there is nothing greater in the world than having two mommies that love you." Her biological mother is dead. I think more adoptive parents should want a connection with their child's birthmom...she is THE life that gave them life, and she gave them the most precious gift in the world.