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Originally Posted by Wendiness
I've written an introduction discussing adoption and genealogy. I recognize that my adopted relatives might feel strange about a genealogy but I've tried to explain that genealogy isn't about who has blue eyes or brown but rather, for our purposes, the traditions, faith, and upbringing that has been handed down.
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I thought the part about who has blue eyes or brown hair was interesting...and even funny to me. I guess I should explain. I have dark hair and really dark brown eyes and my skin is also very dark (especially in the summer or when I tan)...which has ALWAYS brought up the question "what do you have in you" of course I don't know the answer. I had a miscarriage and then a baby boy who was born 13 weeks early and lived only 31 hours. Then, my daughter Mackenzie was born. She is completely opposite of me! She has light brown hair (it used to almost be blond, but it is getting darker), she has blue eyes, fair skin, and lots of adorable freckles on her face (which I love, because I have none). She burns in the sun in a second.
I always assumed because I am so dark that I would be the dominant parent and my child would be dark also. I tell people now that God is just playing a little joke on me, to show me that the fact that she is part of me by blood really doesn't really matter, she came out looking like she did, and she is still mine. I always thought, even though I have no issues with being adopted, that having a child "blood related" to me would somehow still be different. It isn't. She is no more my daughter than I am my parents. It just doesn't work that way!
Just a thought I wanted to share.