[Fran27]

I agree with everyone here.

There's fear of the unknown, the fact that you might not feel adequate raising a child of a different race. I would not feel comfortable raising an AA child frankly, because I know nothing about their culture.

Plus there is neighborhood/area issues. In a caucasian area, I don't think it would be fair to have a child from another race - for the child. I can't imagine how hard it is for a child to grow up in an area where nobody is like you. Plus there is bond to be comments about his difference. It wouldn't matter in a more diversified area of course.

Family, too. Linny, you say you wouldn't associate with people who would have problems with it... but how fair would it be for a child never to see his/fer family because people have a problem with it? I've heard people say that family gets over it. Well, I'm not going to use my child as a guinea pig to find out. I'm not saying that family is necessarily racist, but to me parents just thinking it's a bad idea would be a good enough reason not to be open to race - I can't imagine telling my children 'no sorry you can't meet your grandmother because she has a problem with your race'. Sure, some family members will get over it, but some might still hold back because of the race... not going to take the chance.

Bottom line, we're going for a CC baby. *I* would not have cared that much about race (except AA, because I strongly feel that an AA child, even mixed, should grow up knowing about their culture), but you can't just do what you want in those situations, you have to think about what it will be like for the child, too.