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I can't help but to continually think of how unfair it was for her to have a life so chaotic that she had to make the sacrifice she did. I am acutally feeling guilty as though adopting DS was "taking him away from her." In my heart I know that she knows she made the right decision, but the emotions with adoption are so complex that it's difficult to handle sometimes.
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I hope you don't mind but as an adoptee, I wouldn't want to see my mom (amom) feeling guilt over seeing my bmom-it would be too confusing. It would be like, "ok, if you feel so guilty about it why did you keep me" I don't think thats healthy for any child to witness
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Things went well. She fed him his bottle, loved on him like crazy, and we talked and talked about how he looks just like her other son, DS's brother, and laughed at how they have they have the same facial expressions. I was glad he got to see her too. I mean, I know he knows who she is because we talk about her every day. 
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Again, this would "bug" me out to hear about my bmom everyday-it would make me feel "adopted and different" from the rest of the family. I guess coming from a closed adoption my parents told me I was adopted but didn't make a big deal about it.
I know that you care about your achild's family and you are kind but does the bfamily always have to be in picture everyday? Just curious?