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Well, I called AO... they say the government seems to follow "old" practices. AO doesn't have the same rules, and agrees that everyone is different, so having a set time period where everyone must be ready again is ridiculous. The lady there really put me at ease. She answered a few other questions too that were bothering me. She siad my husband would need to be present for all of the homestudy visits. That confuses me, as at their info session they said some of it could be done without him there. And then she said there is a couple meeting, then a meeting with each of us individually. So, if we're being seen individually, doesn't that mean the other one isn't there?! Maybe she misunderstood me. Anyways, it sounds like they're very flexible and can work around our schedule.
I guess one good thing that came out of that government application meeting, is my husband and I realised what we wanted in a child. We were very open to race, known health history, etc... but now after the meeting we seem to have changed our minds. The lady was very pushy in what we were willing to accept as special needs etc. We went home and had a long discussion (although of course, we had already discussed all of it before, but it was so much more real now). We think applying for a caucasion child (or mixed) is now what we'll do. It just seems it would make things alot easier in the long run. Of course, we would love any child, but we've waited so long, why not wait for our perfect match. The special needs too, we would love our child if it had or developed anything, no question. But, we think requesting a healthy newborn is what we'll do.
Anyone mind commenting on their child desired list? I felt so shallow there, ticking off who we'd accept, who wasn't good enough for us (that's how it felt). It seemed so cruel. But on the other hand, we didn't want to click off everything there just to be kind. (??)
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