[Patty-cake]

I would not tell him until she has the information to search with. If I could do it over in my case I WOULD POST-PONE GIVING HER THE INFORMATION AS LONG AS POSSIBLE. Give her time to bond with you. My daughter asked me in the first letter. I warned her that she might not be well recieved judging by past behavior. It took only two weeks for her to find him.

If you have read my other posts you know that he hopped on a plane and met her before I could. She bonded with him
first. So when she went into information overload I was the one to go- even though his behavior way back when was unconcionable.

I don't know if the things he said about me mattered to her or not. Not lies- but he put me in a bad light.- somethings that go on between a man and woman (boy and girl) should stay between that boy and that girl. (even after after thirty-something years.)

It is easy to forgive the boy- harder to forgive the man but I'm working on it.

I don't know the circumstances of your childs relinquishment but in most cases I'd say keep your contact with this man limited. You are sitll "on your own".