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Good luck! We are dealing with exactly the same thing - group home doesn't think H will succeed in a foster/adopt home.
We had a Meeting of the minds last week with 2 CW's. the therapist at the home, staff members, etc. THe CW's want him in our home. The staff member said "well just a couple of months ago we thought his plan would be to stay in the home till he was 18 (he's 13 now)" THe CW told him this was the worse scenario for H - to age out of foster care.
I told the therapist we are willing to work with H together in therapy with him. So, today is our first session.
DH is quite upset - we just got certified this week. We were told that H could then live with us. I told the CW we were looking forward to having the summer to do some attaching, etc before school started and we run into the problems that will arise there.
The home said "no, we want him to at least be here a month into school so we can give him the boundaries he needs with it" - I told them as a family, I will have more time to be involved with the teachers -plus I have a son that is in the same grade as H and I will know what is going on with homework, etc.
SIGH - we have another meeting in 2 weeks to see "where we are".
Fustrating that the group home is not on board to send H off with a "we belive in you" attitude and at least let's all give this a try.
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