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Ugh. You poor thing.
I think you should talk to him... find out if there is some fear there that is interfering. To me, it looks like fear. Maybe he feels inadequate in some way. But if it isn't fear and it really is just about not "feeling it," well, that is such a real thing, an important thing, a critical point. I think you would just have to support him. I don't have to tell you, you know already, he's first. ugh. I know it doesn't seem fair, he decided for the first, and now it's your turn to decide. But he probably made that agreement based on the unrealistic assumption that he would never have any problem "feeling it." So, his agreement wasn't based on anything real, but on a hope, which is impossible to anticipate. But find out where his fear might lie. Money? Baby's health? Long term prognosis? Is he already feeling stretched? etc.
Hugs
Aundrea
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