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WWYD? Need advice..
A little background - we just adopted our 17mo FD ( who we had since birth) 2weeks ago. The nite I brought her home from the hospital, DH told me that he wanted to adopt her if she came available..
We now have a 4mo FS that we've had since birth.. We've been thru heart surgery with him and I'm very attached.. I mentioned to DH when I brought him home from the hospital at birth that this was my pick and I wanted to keep him if he came up for adoption.. Fast forward to today.. BMom has been missing since the day of N's surgery.. No one has heard from her since. The CW had told us almost a month ago (when ** disappeared) to be keeping in the back of our minds that this case will no longer be going to RU and to decide if we wanted to adopt.. We saw CW yesterday and she mentioned again that we needed to let her know really soon if we were interested in adopting or not b/c otherwise she wanted to move him to another home as they had a few that were wanting to adopt a child.. DH says no- he doesn't "Feel it".. whatever that means.. He doesn't mind adopting again but thinks it's too soon after Teyla's adoption and would rather wait and let her get a bit bigger.. Now I haven't discussed this with him b/c all I can do is burst into tears.. I guess I need advice? Do I try to discuss it with DH and change his mind? Or do I just go ahead and have him moved? The older kids (8 & 10) have been asking for months if we could adopt him .. So I guess in family dynamics it's me +2 kids wanting to adopt and just DH not wanting to.. On one hand I say no, dont adopt b/c he needs a Mom & a Dad that want him.. But on the other I say fight for him b/c he's my baby... I dont really know what to do.. I'm sure there will be other babies and other chances later and we didn't get into fostering to adopt anyway.. But its very hard to have this baby from the very beginning and then be offered to keep him only to have to say no.. I've also never had a long term RU'd or moved so maybe that's part of it. I just look at him and want to cry..
Thoughts or advice??
THanks!
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Proud Mommy to 6 munchkins:
BD (13), BS (11), AD (4- adopted @ 17mo), FS (3- TPR'd , goal is adoption by us!), FS (1- filing TPR- goal is adoption by us!), FD (5-Adoptive placement just waiting out time to adopt!)
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