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Originally Posted By Jessica

I agree with everyone here. Finding your birth family is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Last October I found my birth mother and her family. I know have two brothers and another sister which is wonderful.
Now I don't want to sound like the others that have told you not to search, but you have to think of your son. Walking into a childs life where he may have no clue about you can be devastating. I know it sounds bad but some adopted parents do not tell they're children that they were adopted. I know of a friend of mine that I grew up with that she was not told till she was 15 that she was adopted. I know it sounds mean but maybe you should wait till he's 18. I was 21 when I found my birth mother and we were both searching for each other since I turned 18. I believe that being 21 was a great time for me to find her. I know me saying this may be upsetting and I know that feeling of wanting your blood relatives but trust me, your son may not be ready at 14 to meet you. I'm not trying to be rude or anything. But as much as you want to meet your son you have to think of his needs as well and how this will effect him.