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I am a birthmom, but I have had a similar experience. My birthdaughter was about 9 or 10 years old and we were just sitting and watching tv or something. Then, out of nowhere she looks at me and says "What would have happened to me if you couldn't have found anyone to take care of me when I was born?" Uhhhg! Tear my heart out! I looked at her and said "Well, when you were born, there were lots and lots of people who wanted you to live with them and I picked your mom and dad because I think they are wonderful and knew they would do a great job. BUT, if I couldn't have found someone to take care of you, I would have kept you with me and would love you just as much as I do now."
AMom2Two-I think you handled your daughter's question perfectly. That is exactly what I would want my birthdaughter's mom to say if she ever asked that question. Great job with the quick thinking.
DebCsMom-My birthdaughter has a younger sister who was also adopted. The differences between my relationship with the family and the other birthparents has been a little hard on the little sister. I am able to visit a little more often and am more consistant with contact so she knows me very well. I aways make sure that I give her some special attention because although I know the family because of my birthdaughter, I love the entire family.
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