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As my daughters get older, I'm less likely to volunteer information about their adoption story to others. (The girls are five now and very strongly resemble my husband's family...even their birthmom says so.) I feel like it's their story to share if they choose. If the fact that they were adopted is relevant, yes I share it. I'm certainly not trying to hide the fact or pretend that's not how they joined our family.
Of course, everyone we knew at the time of their birth was aware we were adopting. But, like you, as our jobs change and we meet more people, it's not always "common knowledge." In fact, when I've mentioned it a couple of times recently, people have seemed surprised....in large part because of the strong resemblance.
I'll never forget the co-worker of my husband's that we met in a store when the babies were just a few months old. His question was "So, are these your two little adoptees?" I was so completely offended, I just walked away while my husband tried to smooth it over. (He's the diplomat in the family.) Situations like that make me less willing to offer information about the girls' adoption. I don't want them to hear things like that from ignorant people.
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