[roselee]

Good Grief!

I can relate, also. I have similiar issues in my background and am well adjusted. They probably just didn't do that to me because I am a counselor and school psychologist. During the counseling program we had to go through counseling ourselves for afew months, that frankly I thought it was very stupid and a waste of time for me. Although I have been through a lot, I have already worked them out. The counselor ended up saying that to me and dismissed me after a month; much quicker than the other people in our counseling program who really haven't been through the stuff I have been (although their stuff seemed so insignificant to me, it was signficant for them - very signficant). I can understand the reasoning, but why don't they just make us all jump through the counseling hoops then...??? Not just those who have experienced abuse trauma.

Respite can turn into foster anyways, right?

Perhaps you may just have to jump through hoops; go to a counselor to make them happy. Your counseling sessions will probably consist of you and the counselor talking about stuff you have already worked through and the counselor will probably dismiss you early and there you go - proof!! There could have been some bad experience they experienced before and they want to cover the bases to protect the child (nothing against you, trust me).
You posted this a while ago...any updates? Please let us know!!