[Fran27]

I pretty much feel the same way. I'm really bummed by the lack of excitement from family. It just feels like we were saying 'oh yeah we will have a baby in 2 years'. Because everyone knows it can take that long, so it definitely doesn't feel the same way as if we had got pregnant and only had to wait for 9 months. No monthly OB updates etc sure don't help. The only news we ever get is that we're still waiting.

It probably doesn't help for us that 3 of dh's brothers already have children. So I guess even if we had a bio child it wouldn't be much of a novelty. Add to that that my inlaws don't seem to be comfortable nor relate to the children much (except to make comments about their manners), it sure doesn't help. For my family, they live overseas so it's not like they will see the child more than maybe twice a year anyway.

I'm just hoping that once we actually have a child, things will go better. It will surely help you once you have the referal too. But I can say that for now, the thing I wasn't really considering about adoption would be the lack of enthousiasm around us.