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Hi Carissa and welcome!
Yes, we have "been-there-done-that" as well. I used to walk in the baby section at Wal-Mart and just stand there and cry. Every time I got pregnant we would buy baby things, and then every time I lost the pregnancy I would donate them all away. We never were successful with IF treatments and when we finally made the decision to stop trying and adopt (it was just really too heartbreaking for me to continue getting pregnant and losing the pregnancies over and over) - I knew one young woman in our family who was crying because she was pregnant for the FOURTH time in six years. My brother and his wife got pregnant for the second time the first month they tried - well, you know how it goes - all those people having babies and it seemed no one cared about our decision.
I found myself having NO pity for pregnant women complaining about being pregnant or morning sickness, etc. They had no idea how hard it was for me to listen to them complain. My patience was gone and my desire for a child was real but it seemed most people did not care to understand.
When we finally adopted I had someone close to me tell me not to go buying too much because "these things don't always work out". Some members of our family it took a while for them to accept that we now had a child. I just say that to let you know that even after your sweet blessing comes you will still have some nay-sayers, only you won't give a **** because you'll be so wrapped up in love.
So hang in there - know that this is something a lot of us have been through. In fact, our son is four and our adoption is STILL in jeopardy - but he is so special and so sweet that everyone has fallen in love with him.
BTW - my husband and I had some tough times as well. We made it through and learned a lot about each other in the process - which has helped us to become better parents. Hold tight to your dreams, your love, and your husband - it is all worth it.
I'll say a prayer for you and DH tonight. Best wishes.
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