Hi Carissa...
My heart goes out to you. I've been in some of your spots and know how frustrating and depressing it can be. I even had my doctor get all huffy with me when I told her we were going to stop IF treatments and adopt. She told me "We can get you pregnant... besides, adoptions can take at least 7 years." When I told her the agency we were working with has an average of 9 months, she stopped trying to convince me.
I had times I felt like I was the only one excited about adopting. There were times I felt sure my hubby didn't even care (now I tell myself it was probably just my depression talking). And it felt like no one was happy for my good news... like they all just kind of put it on the back burner for someone elses good news.
I'm still not sure how much of the stuff was in my head or how much of it was just people not knowing how to react. I was so sure my mil wouldn't really care when we brought our baby home, but now I see how she acts with my nephews and my daughter and I realize that she did care but didn't know how to respond at the time (she's a very "whats in this moment now" kind of person instead of thinking about the future). And as for my parents, I think they just didn't want to get excited too soon knowing what all hubby and I had already gone through.
One of the hardest things I had to deal with while going through ttc and then our adoption journey was hearing "so and so is pregnant" or "so and so is having a baby, when are you?", etc. I was happy for these people, but at the same time it reminded me of all I wanted but didn't seem able to have.
So, if you want my advice, hang in there, keep your head up, cry when you need to, but know that there is a child at the end of your journey (which is just the beginning of a new one.
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