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I don't have a formal list, but I do have some expertise in normal attachment. Here is what I can tell you.

1. Attachment behaviors begin around 9 months of age, subside and then resurface again briefly close to 2 years (in home grown bio kids--timing can be different in adopted kids)
2. Seperation anxiety, fear of strangers and preference for mom (or the primary caregiver) over all others is a sign of attachment. Child may cry upon seperation but usually settles down fast once mom is gone. Child may cry upon reunion with mom, but is easily comforted.
3. As the baby or toddler grows, they begin to show secure base behavior. They wander away but only go so far before either visually or physically touching base back with mom.
4. Preference for the attachment figure (again, usually mom) when sick or hurt (but may prefer dad for play).
5. Eventually (after age 3 and by age 6 ), increasing identification with same sex parent.
6. After age 3 (and by age 6) being able to negotiate with mom to get needs met (ie. mom tells child to wait 5 minutes for play time or a meal) and have a mutually recipricoal and loving relationship.
7. A child loving other family members is not the same as attachment. Attachment is the relationship between child and the primary caregiver based on physical proximity, satisfying needs, and the primary attachment figure giving love, affection and emotional comfort. Usually the primary attachment figure is mom, but can be dad or whoever else is the primary caregiver.
8) Children who never had the opportunity to form an attachment relationship before the age of 2 will likely have some attachment problems. Children who began attachment relationships which were then repeatedly severed during the first 3 years of life due to multiple moves, inadequate caregiving etc will likely have attachment probkems. Children who attached but lost their parent or attachment figure should be able to attach again over time. In other words, it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before.
9) Attachment is not instanteous. It takes 9 months to a year in homegrown kids. It will typically take about the same about of time for adopted kids. it can take longer in attachment disordered kids.
10) a 6 to 14 (approx) month old baby is ripe for attachment and probably will attach fairly easily, unless neurological or health problems in the child or caregivers inadequacy interfere with the process.

Hope this helps.