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We work with an AT who has made many of the suggestions both Lucy and Stevventwin did. Which work very well for us and she's 14 now and came to us just over a year ago. What our theriapist is also having me do is hold B and tell her calmly that I am not Mother, K*& but I am mommy, (your name), Mother (person) is not here I am and I will help you stay safe and your are safe now. What our therapsit says is that their subconsious takes over and they get what he says locked in the past. We have to drive to keep or bring them into the present.
We also do lots of holding when she is raging or crashing. Her poor behaviors tells us she cannot handle more control and that we need to control things for her.
As the other girls stated make sure your new therapist understands AT and adoption behaviors and problems.
Good luck
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~Faith~
FD 14 YRS Old Placed 4/21/05
TPR granted on 11/01/06 of BioF by BioF!
TPR granted on 11/05/06 of BioM by Judge 6 days after 4 days of hearings!
Will be adopting FD once paper work is processed and finalized!
B is the LOVE of MY HEART!
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