[Jessreplanted]

Hi Everyone,

I will try to keep a long story short. I am here for support and advice from others who have experience with adoption.

My husband and I received a phone call from someone we knew asking us if we would like a baby through adoption - she had been helping a pregnant woman find an adoptive family. Initially we were thrilled. We have begun the legal process (through a lawyer) and will have our first home study interview tomorrow. This past week has been difficult though. We found out that the birthmother wants to have a paternity test (we knew that part) and that if the father is her previous boyfriend, she intends to keep the baby. We almost backed out of this situation when we were told this, but then decided that we had already made a commitment to this child. This morning we were told that the birthmother is picking out names for the baby - which is very upsetting, because our lawyer told us that we would be naming the baby, and we already have names picked. I am beyond overwhelmed at this point. The birth mother is due this week.. and I just don't know what to expect. Any advice?
Thanks,
Jess

*edited to add that the birthmom also suggested to the lawyer that it would be nice if we wanted to give her some $.