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I'm sorry to see that this whole discipline forum seems pretty dead. I postponed coming here for several days, knowing it would be painful, but also knowing it might help me work through some old stuff. I find that with forums in general, when I post to other people in hopes of helping, comforting, etc. that I'm the one who really benefits.

With regard to this spanking debate thread --

please don't spank.

I could type until my fingers were numb about why I say that. Much easier to simply say, I'm an adoptee who was spanked until around age 12, maybe a bit older. I'm now 49 and still have a strong emotional response to hearing or seeing the word, beginning with a kneejerk feeling of shame and spiraling from there unless I stop it.

Warmly, heartbeat