[LoveJosiah]

We have almost no contact with our son's BMom. That was agreed upon when we first met, and a condition of our adoption.
We get an e-mail from her maybe once a year, usually just a fwd. I e-mail back if it is a personal note, but haven't had one of those since DS was a year old. He's 3 now.
I think of her sometimes (definately on Mother's Day and on our son's birthday), but she is not a part of our lives. My DH & I pray for her when she comes to mind...and hope very much that she is doing well, but we wouldn't want to have more contact, at least not for now. Our morals, values and beliefs are very different.
We would like to hear that she is doing well from 3rd parties, though. We have family in common.
One day I hope our son can meet his sibings, he has a brother that she is parenting, and a sister that she adopted out to another couple.
We have pictures and personal info about her, and our son's BF and brother that he can have when he is older. We are pleased with the arrangement, and would not have gone with an open adoption. She didn't want one, either, so it has worked out well.