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Originally we thought we only wanted semi open. We understood, at some superficial level, that it would be good for the child in the long run. What we didn't understand was how we would come to feel very quickly about H's bmother and her family. We only met them the day before H was born, but they let us into the delivery room, encouraged us to bond, and so clearly had H's best interests at heart that we very quickly felt a bond with them. I don't think we COULD have gone through that birth experience with them and cut them off from contact afterward. The relationship is very good, though I would like slightly less contact than they would---I just don't want to schedule a 2 hour visit every 2nd or 3rd weekend. I am trying to be patient and let that taper off of its own accord. We think of her often, but in part because of the special conditions, I think of her more in a maternal, or MUCH older sister way than as a friend.
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