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Adoptive moms,
What kind of relationship do you have with your childs birth mom? are you happy with the relationship? if not what would you like to change? How often Do you find yourself thingkng about her? Do you ever find the need to want to know more about her? and want to talk to her? Do you see the 2 of you as friends, sisters, etc?
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We have a simi open relationship with our dd's birthmother. We send updates and pictures at least monthly and visit once a year for dd's birthday, she just turned two. At this point I am happy with the relationship becasue "E" is not at really good point in her life and I don't want to be involved with the life she is leading right now too much. "E" does not show a lot of interest in our dd so our visits and updates are more for the extended family I think. I think about "E" every second of everyday, she gave us the greatest gift and made such a huge sacrifice but I had so hoped she would use this to better her own life as well. I worry for her safety when she is at work during the day and when she is at home, where ever that may be at the moment. Because we met her three months before our dd was born we got to know her very well, we spent quite a bit of time together. I do wish I could understand what makes her want or need to lead the life she is leading because before the baby she was a very stright laced girl with her head on stright and really going places with her life. I think of her as another child of mine in some ways. I think the way I feel for her and worry about her is how I would feel if one of my own children left home and was not leading the best life.
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