[arthymom]

This caught my eye.

I am an only. It isn't great. The only upside is that when I have asked my mom (parents are divorced) for time with us or financial help, she has given it to me without hesitation. But that may be true of folks w/siblings too.

The downsides are many. I feel lonely in this world a lot. Cousins aren't the same, when I see my dh and his bro. and sis. with whom he fought as a kid now love each other and would do anything for each other.

As for us, I had to talk dh into adopting a second. He is very happy with one, but my own only childhood made up my mind.

From what I hear, 2 can be more chaotic and challenging. We are both cautious people and are so worried about trying for a second. Esp. since our first is bio. and our second will be adopted; that feels like a bigger leap.

My mind says stay with one. My heart says adopt a second. So that is what we are trying to do now.

Good luck w/your decisions.