Thank you all so much for the posts! It's a wonderful feeling to have a community of support from people who have similar experiences. I can't begin to thank you all enough. It's so great to share that phone call and know that it's all ok. All those feelings and thoughts and that strange recognition immediately. I'm crying again now from all your kind words...
I hadn't heard of the book-
The Girls Who Went Away and I think I would really like to go find it. It sounds like a great thing to read right now, I want to understand more about what that process is/was all about. Thank you for the suggestion.
Going slow is a good thing to hear. She wants to come meet me this summer and I'm still wondering if the circumstances will be ideal for that first meeting. Good thing to think about. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and stories they brought me such comfort and somehow really solidifies that the phone call actually happened- like it was witnessed and celebrated by you all as well.
At the end of the call it was a little funny- like how do we say "I love you" and goodbye. She also said something about how her daughter's friend always calls her "Mom" and how great that is, I think I'd really love to call her that- to own that part of our connection- we've both been cautious of possible boundaries the other might have, but on the phone it became very clear we both feel much less worried about boundaries for ourselves. It's all so exciting.
I'm such a mess and so happy right now.
