[StorkWatcher]

I think I posted this on a similar thread in another forum. HOpe I'm not going to contradict myself....

We began our journey leery of open relationships, due to lack of education about open adoption and many unwarranted fears.

We ended up requesting a semi-open, with fully open being an option, depending on the situation, and if we felt comfortable w/ the e-parent(s) and vice versa.

We ended up w/ a semi-open relationship based on our son's bmom's request. And surprisingly were very disappointed that we never have gotten to meet her. I send letters/photos (actually, really need to write one this week) to the agency every couple of months. She gets them, but doesn't respond, although has told the CW who tells us she's very happy to get them.

I am going to ask my first personal questions in this next one, and am worried about "scaring her off". We'd like to know if her other children have any allergies/medical history we might need to be aware of. There are so many things I'd love to ask her. But I don't want her to think we're intruding in her life or being demanding by asking some things.

I have a friend who has a nice open relationship, and it makes me wish many times that ours were a little more open. But it is what it is for now, and that seems to work for her.

I wish we'd been able to meet her once, though. And I'd love it if she could write a letter to our son someday.

I keep her letters really upbeat and try to give her a very good idea of what his daily life is like and what his usual activities are and how happy we all are.

I hope I"m doing the right thing. I just wish I had some sort of confirmation from her so I'd know. She didn't really have any expectations in the beginning, and we don't have a set arrangement.