[mom2GRLC]

With my oldest sons birthmom:
I have sent her a letter introducing ourselves adn asking her if she would lick contact that was a year ago this mothers day. I haven't received anything back but I do know she received the letter and was unable to read it all at the time. I do think of her often and wish i could at least have a picture of her for my son. But even that isn't enough. I would like to be her friend and keep her updated through out the years. I'd also at some point like to meet her and have my son meet her...preferably before he is grown.

With my oldest daughter:
We have had lots of contact and it has been a very difficult relationship but also very positive. I feel so blessed to know that my daughters bfamily cares about her enough to stay in her life even when it can be very hard on them. I do picture them as more than just a friend but as extended family. I feel so blessed to have this relationship with them adn i do think of them EVERY single day.

With my youngest daughter:
All I have is a little background information on her birthfamily and her birthmom's name and picture. I wish I could offer them continued contact but I just don't know how to contact them. Since i do know what she looks like from that one picture when i come across people who look a lot like her I usually ask them if they are (_____) and they always say no =0(. I do think of her often and wish I could talk to her and be her friend.

With my youngest son(who we are still waiting to adopt):
I have known his birthmom for a year and a half now as I have visited with them every week at DHS. She is heavily into drugs and while i do think of her often and pray for her I do not wish to have direct contact with her right now. She has my P.O. Box and I hope someday she will choose to write him. Right now she is appealing the judges decision to terminate her rigths even though she has done nothing on her case plan. I feel a special connection to her because she is my son's birthmom but really that is as far as it goes at this point. I really worry what her future has in store and wether she will even be around when my son is old enough to have a reunion.

All in all.....I do desire to have a close friendship with each of my kids birthfamilies. I want to share with them my childrens lives (but sort of from a distance...I'm a little afraid to get to close) I'm also interested in their lives how they are doing, how they feel, i want to know what their family tree looks like and the stories behind each of their family members. I want them to be a forever extension of our family. We'll just have to wait and see what the future has in store for us.