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Originally Posted by lucyjoy
He had to have been doing some pretty serious acting out to land in an RTC and stay there that long at his age. I think you would need more information on the acting out and why another foster placement wasn't tried. Something doesn't sound right. Also, TPR done in a year? Did the bio parent die or was the child shifted in and out of his bio home over the years. Something doesn't sound right.
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The reason he's available already is the bio parents gave up their rights to him. The bio parents split up and the bio mom admitted the bio dad had been abusing him for years. She & her new boyfriend don't want kids so she gave up her rights to him & his little sister. (Best thing she could have done for them from what I read.) The father gave up his rights to the boy, but is fighting for the girl. The boy has had some behavior problems in the past which the parents blamed him for, but which I believe was the result of the abuse.
If we are selected for him, whenever they get around to selecting a family for him again, I'll be sure to ask a lot of questions about why he was placed in RTC instead of another foster home after the relative placement failed.
I'm getting so discouraged. It seems like the only kids available have very serious issues. They've tried to give us two different ones that have been sexually abuse. At least that's not this boy's problem.
It's not that I don't expect problems. I've read several adoption attachment books and I've been reading the posts on another older child adoption website for months. (I just found this site the other day.) In the beginning I thought we'd take one that sounded like he had no problems knowing we'd probably run into problems. Now I feel like I'm settling for one with problems with the fear that he has even worse problems.