Hi... You will get alot of different answers to this question... and strong feelings about it.
For me, I adopted my DD when she was alittle over 8 years old. I of course would NEVER think to change it on her at this age. Her birth name is Anna, but her 'pet' or 'child's' name (in russia) is Anya. When I hosted her that summer, I introduced myself to her, and said "prevet Anna".... she looked at me and said... "Nyet... Anya". So, when I was filling out the paperwork, and in court, I did request that all of her new paperwork have "Anya" on it. She would be fighting everyone (including teachers) to call her Anya. The good thing is, is that it is still truly her name.
As far as a baby/infant or even a 3 - 5 year old.... I couldn't tell you, since I didn't have to think about it. Just off the top of my head... I think I would first have to know what the child's given name was....
Congrats on starting your Love Journey!!! It is the best!!!!
Blessings..................
