[taramayrn]

That is great that you believe you are giving a couple a gift - your child. It's just that the rest of us, who have been there done that, don't see it that way. I find it very sad that you feel it is your "job" to provide an infertile couple with a child and therefore happiness. That is very very sad.
No one is trying to talk you out of anything or questioning you in a judgemental way. We just want you to think about somethings. Many of us wish we had someone in our lives when we were making this huge decision that would have asked us the same questions and made us really think about what we were doing.
That's all...we just want you to make the right decision for you and your baby - not for someone else.