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HI, I'm hoping that you get this even though it was posted a long time ago (I'm new to the site). I turned 20 in March and have been thinking about locating my birth parents. It's a really sticky situation for everyone involved (b parents and bchild). I know when I turned 18, the appeal was great to find out who my bparents are, but it is such a hugggeeee emotional issue that i couldn't handle doing it with graduation, prom and college all in the future. i can't imagine how difficult it must be for you to know your daughter is right in your own town, but be apprehensive about what to do. Coming from a young adults perspective, it would be great to contact her right after graduation. That way all the big issues involving her senior year are done, and she can have the summer to respond (you are very fortunate to live in the same town). I guess the kind of sticky situation in my opinion is how to go about contacting her. Although it might be a pain to do, the old fashioned search way might be better. I dont know how i would feel if my birth mother lived in my same town and did not contact me. Part of me thinks i would be quite hurt to know she waited. Plus, do her aparents know that you know about her? you might put the mutual friends friendship at jeopardy if you let her aparents know that he kept you updated on your daughter. However you approach meeting her, I'm sure she will be quite excited. I'm so happy for you to have found your daughter and i hope the reunion goes great!
Kristen
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