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I think it depends on the bmother and how motivated she is. Ours originally wanted to visit every holiday and two other times during the year but we didn't think that was something we could do so we told her no visits until Castle was old enough to want to visit. Once the adoption was over we decided that once a year would be something we could do and arranged for a visit at birthday time each year. Last year everything went great but this year we had to twist "E's" arm to get her to make time. We sent updates and pictures every three months the first year and twice the second. "E" told me that she has moved so much she doesn't know where everything is so now I am keeping copies here in a box for her, which she doesn't know about, so that when Castle turns 18 I can ship her everything at once. If I waited for "E" to plan visits they would not happen so for us it would not work to leave it up to her. I usually end up planning with her grandmother and she gets the family all lined up to visit on a certain date.
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