[ValerieP]

I am the amom in an open adoption. I send monthly updates with pictures (until age 6 after age 6 it goes to every other month updates and a yearly video until age 18), a video twice a year, and the agreement was for 3 visits a year. I always try to give as much information as possible in each monthly update, because I have always felt it was important for the birthfamily to know. The birthfamily has our home phone, our cell phone and is still in contact with the agency we went through.

My question is... I have both verbally on the phone and written-wise in the updates reminded her that whenever she wants a visit, to please let us know.

Do you think that is alright, leaving the visits for her to schedule (in other words, when she wants to see our daughter, she can call and let us know when she would like to visit?) I would really like to hear from all sides. Thanks.