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Apparantly no matter how much amoms try to explain what we mean by "gift", it is taken in the wrong way.
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I think this goes both ways, though. You see it as we are taking it the wrong way... and we see it as you choosing to continue to offend - no matter what anyone says to explain...
I think really it goes back to leigh's thread (I think it was hers)..being in it for ourselves.... we werent placing our children to give anyone the gift of family.. parenting... filling a hole...
No.. it is about us. We all want to give our children the world... and when we find our shortcomings.. then we look to others to do that... but the main thing is OUR NEED to give our children more than we can. Hopefully the full benefit goes to our child... but it is about OUR desires for our child. And really.. it has nothing at all to do with the other couple.
They too are at the table for themselves...
No one... IMO is giving a gift to anyone.
Not even the child.. because there are great losses with the gains... the child simply gets our HOPE for their greater future.
I know that I placed Kristin because I was scared of her father... I was raising a two year old.. I wanted the best for both of my kids... It was about what I wanted for her.. not what she wanted... not what they wanted... Me.
No gift.
Bleh.