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I had a weird situation happen to me with a close friend. She found out she was pregnant and took me out to lunch to see "how I would feel if I knew she was pregnant"... I got the message. But then they waited another 4 months to make a formal annoucement over dinner one night as a "BIG" surprise. I was hurt and very annoyed that they would make it such a huge deal for our benefit (my husband I were the only ones at dinner w/them). They knew all we were going through and it was like salt to the wound. Everytime my husband I would come over, they would show us all the new baby things, talk about the importance of breast feeding, saving the placenta, and discuss her nutrition while preganant. I also hosted the shower, bought gifts, and smiled all through it all while answering phone calls from our former surrogate (after 3 failed IVFs.) Needless to say we hardly see them at all sicne the baby was born. Mostly because I think they are uncomfortable around us. There is a definite feeling of "poor them, so glad it's not us".
Now that we are adopting, I know who the people are who are truly supportive.
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