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Originally Posted By Brenda

Oh, Kate! I am so sorry! What a nightmare! I don't know the laws, especially since they are different in each state. I understand that here (in TX) when a b-parent relinquishes rights, he/she is doing so for his/her entire extended family. That is my experience and I am in the process of a stepparent adoption (hubby is adopting my daughters).

I have had the opposite situation. I have older daughters, 11 and 15. When b-dad gave up rights, I encouraged grandma to stay in their lives. I only wanted her to do so because with my girls being older, and this being their grandma...I didn't want them to feel twice rejected...b-dad rejecting was bad enough. She chose to step out of the picture though. The kids are hurting, but will be okay I'm sure.

I really feel for you. Since several months have passed since your post, I am very curious as to what is happening in your situation. I do hope you sought some legal advice. I feel pretty strongly that the birth grandma cannot break apart your family, legally. I know that it will be very stressful for your family, however. It is hard enough to make major transitions in life without the added turmoil.

I would like to know what you have learned, since your post. I don't think this person will be able to retrieve any rights...her daughter signed those away for her...at least, this is what I understand to be true. Let me know!