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thanks she is not too young in age but quite young in manner,,, yes we are still in contact with our social worker and she has spoken to us and bmother quite often, thankfully she has now told us that what bmother has been doing is unacceptable and that we have to be really firm with her from now on and if anything happens again that we will have to discontinue contact until she has settled,,as its not in the best interest off EE to be around that sort of atmosphere, she didnt have counselling as she asks for it then says she doesnt need it so wont return their calls,, even with all this unhappiness she has told us and social worker that she is still happy with her decision and that she is happy with us being EEs parents as she feels we are the best parents for her,,,, we have been so understanding as even when all this started happening we put it down to her grief process but we can only take so much , she says that everything is fine and that she is happy with the contact agreement then we get a nasty text the next day saying that she doesnt agree with it and its all on our terms,,very cofusing as we constanly asking what she wants, she even got annoyed at previous visits when it was time for EEs sleep,,, she expected us to keep her up even though we had told Bmother EEs sleep time and bmother was an hour and a half late for visit with no phonecall.....EE is the most important person in all of this and her needs will always be met first, we were so close to our bmother before our baby was born, we were at the birth, my husband cut the cord and i was the first one to hold her and feed her,,( this is almost unheard of here in NZ ) so we think of ourselves as very blessed to have had such a great relationship with her which is why it is hurting us so much now that we have to put our foot down with her,,, we dont want to hurt anyone but what else can we do we have been nothing but patient and understanding with her but once you get yelled shutup at i really dont think its healthy relationship anymore
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