[proudmum]

Hi,,,, i am annoyed , i am frustrated and very angry at the birthfamily of my little girl (13 months ) they way they are acting is making me feel like we are just babysitting our daughter for them, they have wanted so much, 6 visits this first year even though it was agreed 3. we have always said yes to their requests believing that it was in the best interest of our daughter,, bmother even had the cheek to request that she wanted her family to view at the photographers EEs portraits so they could all choose photos they wanted,,,( all this after i had told her that we would send her a portrait ourselves,) and when i declined her request she rang our adoption social worker to complain and told social worker that if she( Bmother) wanted to have copies of all the photos then she felt that she should get them...not on... it was our choice to have portraits done and our choice to send her one if we wanted to.
Things have been getting out of control with a nasty text msg from out of the blue, our first indication that things were going wrong,,,, after all , everything that she asked for she got.. i was late on sending a child health report which i appologized about,,, but we were in the middle of selling our house and moving at the time.. since then we have had more and more horrible texts and we have had enough,,, i told her the last time that i saw her in may that if i received another text or phonecall like that that i would ask her not to contact me again until she could do so with the same respect we show her. Every time i get a text i think it is her.... its making me so unhappy and all i want to do is focus on raising our daughter.... bfamily basically wants all the access that want when they want it and when we decline ( extra visits ) they get really annoyed,,,, has anyone got any ideas on what we can do in this situation as we dont want anyone to get hurt but in this process are hurting ourselves ADVICE PLEASE thanks