[NurseNikki]

Leigh and Renee --

I can't believe people sometimes. Thank goodness the gal I call my best friend would never do that. We started trying to get pg at the same time, it worked for her, not for me. I too have played the role, hosting the shower, etc. I now babysit for her lots, and to her daughter, I am Aunt Nikki. I can't imagine what you two are dealing with, as even now, she is my confidant and a huge supporter of our whole adoption journey.

I have had enough fair-weather friends in my life. Right now is not the time for them. I agree with Leigh, if they can't handle it, it's their problem!

I have to ask -- do you (meaning anyone reading this) tell your whole family/friends you are adopting? We got asked by a friend tonight when/if we were having kids of our own, etc. I am sure you all know the story. She was curious, not trying to be nosy or rude. My DH doesn't want to make a big deal about it outside the immediate family members who already know, at least, not until we know something. I have a different perspective, I think the more people that know, the more potential for a "tip" so to speak -- this is how my aunt adopted. I am respecting his wishes to keep it under wraps, but am curious what others are doing?